Everywhere we turn today, we are constantly encouraged to self-improvement, whether it concerns our physical or mental health. Various services and products are available to buy to help us become more of ourselves and take better care of ourselves.
All these offers of something better reinforce the idea of a search within us, a hunt for something outside of ourselves that will make us more whole. The longer the search and hunt goes on, you may soon notice how what you seem to be looking for is never really found. The drive to search is always there, no matter how much insight or change or environmental change you make. How is that possible?
Well, because the search for solutions, improvement and change eventually lives its own life and just loops around. You search, search and hunt, but you don't know what in the end. You just know that there is apparently something or someone that will make you more satisfied and more whole.
But that feeling of wholeness is not found outside yourself. It is not found in anyone else either. It is not found at all. It is already there, and has always been there. The problem is not how you find it, but how you teach your body to stop looking outside itself and be content to remain within itself.
It is not really more difficult than that to become more satisfied with your existence and yourself. But in practice, for many it is a difficult and patient work as it takes time to retrain the body to stop hunting and remain within yourself. Especially if you learned at an early age that your survival depends on your attention needing to be outside your body.
What you are looking for is within you and you will find it as soon as you learn to remain within yourself.
How do you do it?
Notice every time your attention is outside yourself - it could be thoughts about a person, an event, a problem.
Notice the shift in focus - is the focus outside of yourself or inside of yourself?
Leave the attention on the outside, bring the attention back on the inside - back on you and the experience of your body.
Land in the thought that there is nothing more than the experience of you and your reality.
Notice if the experience of your external reality then becomes both more meaningful and calmer.
Continue to practice experiencing reality from within the calm within yourself rather than in the pursuit outside yourself.
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