Why are you going back to what hurts you?
Gain control over your body by understanding what it is drawn to, what it avoids, and why.
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Why it's so hard to accept your existence and let it be just the way it is.
During my 16 years as a professional psychologist, I can conclude that what should be the most obvious thing to accept for many people is what complicates it the most for us - our existence.
The root of much mental illness seems to be a difficulty landing in our own body and then in our soul, our essence - our existence. We either escape it and/or shut it down.
Help as avoidance
All our strategies for escaping ourselves sooner or later produce symptoms such as anxiety and depression. Today's society with all the tempting distractions in the form of screen use, food, drugs and stressful jobs does not make it easier for us in our attempts to be.
It has gone so far that even activities that are supposed to help us land more within ourselves, such as meditation, retreats or self-help books, can end up fulfilling the function of achievement and escape instead of acceptance and peace. Our search for inner peace can paradoxically become a stressful search in itself.
Fewer solutions needed
Many people who seek therapy do so with the idea that they are broken and need to be fixed. Consumer society supports this idea as it keeps people in the loop of needing to consume constant help.
But the truth might be that what is needed is not more solutions, but rather less. Less of everything is needed to achieve peace. Fewer distractions and more attempts to simply exist without the support of theories, explanations or confirmations.
But it is also doing what is most difficult for most people. To actually disconnect from the outside world and instead connect more with yourself. And to do it daily in your everyday life and not once a week at breathwork or on beautiful retreats abroad.
Come back to yourself
To ground yourself more and more, you can do the following:
1. Reduce distractions
2. Let go of the idea of change
3. Trust that you are already whole
4. Increase moments of sitting with yourself without calling it meditation or the like
5. Increase moments of rest, contact with nature and in silence with yourself
6. Increase activities that bring you joy and meaning
To receive support from me in this process, schedule a call here or take my online course Stop before Start.
